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- I want to know why my boyfriend
always talks about his ex-girlfriend. I have brought the issue
up and he tells me that he is just making conversation and
letting me know about him, because that is his past and that is
what has made him, him. I kinda accepted that, but this morning,
we were about to have sex and he brought up a story telling me
about the two of them having sex. That kinda killed the mood for
me. Anyway, when he talks about her, he's always talking how
slim, how beautiful, etc. she is and this makes me feel VERY
self conscious as if I am not beautiful enough. I would like to
know why he may be doing this!!
- Mell, Age 22 from New Zealand
Stupidity. On the other hand lots of guys hint to the girl when
they'd like her to lose a couple of pounds. (Don't get me wrong
- I'm not condoning this.) So are you overweight? Maybe you
could use you're frustration with him to do something about your
figure. Then when you're slim and in shape you could dump his
dumb ass. On the other hand, you could slap him silly NOW until
he understands that you're not going to tolerate his
thoughtlessness....
- The Man
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- I have been with my boyfriend
for over two years. He's both black and white (his mother is
black, father is white). His previous girlfriend bugged him
about the size of his penis (which is definitely not small!) He
becomes so uncomfortable about it we can't have sex. He believes
he can't satisfy me, and although he's not my first he satisfies
me even more then any of the others. I tell him repeatedly that
he is a great lover and he more then satisfies me. This doesn't
suffice. Please, this is the man I want to be with. What can I
do?!
- Jill, Age 21 from New York
Why don't you develop an interest in porno movies. Go out and
get a bunch. Watch them when he's not around, and identify the
ones where the porn star guy has a smaller tool then your man.
Throw the rest away (unless you find a couple you like :-) Then
play those "tiny tool" pornos when he IS around and
point out how big his dong is compared to the porn star dude's.
If that doesn't work, go get a good shrink.
- The Man
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- I know you're a man and you
take up for men, but I'm dying to read what your take will be on
this one -- true story: there are two men I know who are
roommates. One is a bouncer and one's a lawyer. The lawyer is
extremely good looking but is homosexual. He is in love with his
bouncer roommate but pretends to be interested in women. So
doing, he lures the women back to his house and his roommate the
bouncer rapes them. This has happened in a serial kind of way to
more than 3 women so far. I was one of them. I've reported them
to the police, but the lawyer defended his love, lied for him
and is continuing to lure meat to the house to feed his beloved
beast. Evidence is mounting and I predict an arrest of both of
them soon. Ever heard of a case like that before?
- Karen, Age 32 from Georgia
Life has a way of paying people back. Sounds like these two
losers are already standing in line.
- The Man
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- What percentage of men have
intercourse during menstruation?
- Franklin
Men menstruate? What was is like growing up in your house?
(kidding) Um, this really depends on a number of factors. First
of all, if the dude hasn't been laid in a while, he might be
more likely to take the plunge while "the uncle is
visiting". Age and a number of other factors can also
influence a person's choice in that area including how sexy the
girl is. I'm not into the "menstruation sex" thing
myself, but if it was with my dream woman, I'd have a harder
time saying 'no'.
- The Man
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- I just got another job...
exotic dancing. I want to tell some of my friends but I'm not
sure. I think maybe if I didn't say anything to them I would
just see them in there one night and it would be a very weird
experience. What do I do??
- Rachel, Age 19 from California
You poor thing! No one to help you with this problem. I guess I
can't really help you either since I haven't seen your act. I
suppose you could come over here every night for a month or two
so I can get a good look at what you do. Then I'd be in a much
better position to help you. Consider it a favor. No need to
thank me, I'm just a nice guy. Actually, I suggest you tell a
couple of key friends and ask them NOT to go to
that club. If they walked in and saw you it would be really
weird and you don't want to get an unjustified reputation.
Anyway, be careful. There's all kinds of ways for a 19 year old
to get in trouble doing that line of work.
- The Man
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- Is it true the older a man gets
the less sex drive he has?
- Lisa, Age 40 from New York
Nope. That's just what some men tell their wives after having
sex for the 5000th time. You need to find ways to make things
interesting again.
- The Man
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- What is the best way to get a
guy totally into the moment where he's just into you and nothing
else?
- Summer, Age 19 from Arizona
Sex works for me, why?
- The Man
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- I met this girl on the
internet. When we met, we were crazy about each other. Now her
Mom doesn't like me. She doesn't allow me to see, talk to or
have anything to do with her daughter. What do I do now?
- Dull, Age 18 from Washington
Shave, get a hair cut, loose the baggy jeans, stop calling
people 'dog' and above all else treat the mom with absolute
respect no matter what she says to or about you. Somehow she got
it into her head that you're a loser. You have to prove her
wrong. On the other hand, if you are a loser, you're
pretty much out of options.
- The Man
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- Hi Man. I have a friend who I
am liking more and more each day. He calls me everyday and we
meet after work most of the time. We're just friends but the
fact that he is still close to his ex is becoming a scarier idea
to me everyday. I broke off the friendship yesterday because the
jealousy is killing me and I don't want to tell him how I really
feel. We're both christians and we've both become aware and
admitted our attraction to each other which is one reason why
the relationship has become more tense or intense. Did I do the
right thing in breaking our friendship?
- Kristi, Age 32 from Georgia
This is one of those 'logic moments' that guys have from time to
time. So let me get this straight: you somehow reasoned that
getting rid of this guy would keep you from losing him. Do I
understand that right? Do you remember that game 'red light
green light' from when you were a kid? Did you have trouble with
that concept by any chance? I suggest you lay it out for him and
see what happens. Either you get what you want or you end up
right where you are now anyway.
- The Man
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- I been talking on line with
this guy for 9 months now. We even talked on the phone one time.
we are to meet soon and I, weirdly enough, have a crush on him.
If he's all he's been all this time, I would really like to
sleep with him. My fear though is that he'll think I'm a slut
for sleeping with him so early. I'm a virgin and never been
kissed btw. I never dated anyone really even though I've been
told to be a very pretty girl. He's sorta the only man I ever
really fancied. I'm a bit too hard to get I suppose.. What do I
do?
- Kate, Age 20 from Ireland
Don't plan on sleeping with him on the first time. What's the
hurry? Beside, you might not like him in person. Phone and in
person are two very different things. If you really like him,
then make him wait a little. He won't mind. If he does, get rid
of him.
- The Man
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- I just recently went out with
this guy, whom I really like. I have heard that he really likes
me too! When we went out for the first time, which was just a
little bite to eat due to lack of time, we had a great time!
When he dropped me off he didn't ask for my number or anything.
I will see him in again in 2 days but, do you think this is
normal or do you think this was just a nice way to say lets just
be friends? Thanks for everything!!
- Bella, Age 22 from Florida
I wouldn't read too much into that. I have done the same thing
myself. If he knows he's going to see you again then there may
be no urgency. On the other hand, I have also not asked for a
girls number on purpose from time to time. This is one of those
'wait and see' scenarios. All you can do is wait and see what he
does.
- The Man
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- All right. Here it is. I'm
asking YOU, of all people...When I was younger I was H-O-T. I
got so much attention from men that it got irritating. I still
get quite a bit now that I'm 30, but I am going through this
REALLY hard time about getting older. I'm still slim and pretty
but you know... gravity and a few wrinkles and I don't even know
how I'm supposed to DRESS anymore. I want my confidence back -
and a few weeks ago you wrote that guys take longer to orgasm
when they're older partly because women get less attractive..
UGH. That was a killer. Tell me - can a thirty year old be a
hottie, or should I just stop thinking its possible and stock up
on track pants?
- Nancy, Age 30 from Canada
Did I say that?? Funny. Anyway it would really help from time to
time if you guys sent a picture or two for The Man's
evaluation... So here's the deal: If you're a hottie at 30 then
you're better off then a lot of women. The funny thing I've
noticed about life is that the tables have turned as I've gotten
older (I'm 31). I'm much more pursued now then I ever was at 20
and I'm also much more discriminating. On the other hand it's
getting hard and harder for me to date young women. I'd still do
it if the circumstances were right, but somehow it breaks my
heart to think I'm getting too old for all those beautiful young
women out there. Such is life. I guess we're all getting a
little older.
- The Man
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- My boyfriend never wants to do
anything anymore like a blowjob or things like that. He's been
getting high and all he wants to do is sit around and stare at
the ceiling!! it really annoys me and I really need something
that he can't resist. What kinds of things could I do to him to
totally turn him on and get him begging for a blowjob??
- Sarah, Age 16 from Texas
Any more like you at home???!
- The Man
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- I've been with this girl for
about a week. A lot of people say that she is a "GUTTER
SLUT" but she doesn't make any sexual advances when we are
alone.
- Spoon, Age 18 from Ohio
Don't believe everything you hear. On the other hand, what are
you after? If you're waiting just for sex then that would make
you the slut, right? If you like her, just be cool and things
will happen eventually.
- The Man
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- I have been going out with girl
for about 3 months. I know she wants to get serious, but I tell
her I am saving myself for marriage. Should I give to her wishes
or should I stand my ground????
- Bill , Age 34 from outside the USA
Bill, do her. You're 34 for christ sake.
- The Man
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